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Hi Littlemissus,

What you have described is definitely abuse, your partner sounds controlling and emotionally abusive and he clearly causes you distress. It also sounds like he has taken steps to isolate you over the years which is probably part of the reason why you are unsure if you are experiencing abuse or not, you have no one to talk to about this which is exactly what he wants.

The fact that he hasn’t supported you when you needed it most and he tells you that you would not be able to meet someone else is also all part of the manipulation. You need to ask yourself, what do you get out of this relationship? What do you want from a relationship and is he giving it to you? This is sometimes very difficult to ask yourself, but if he is not giving you anything except stress and abuse, perhaps it is time to ask yourself would you be better off without him?

Well done for posting about how you are feeling. That is a huge first step, and a really positive move in the right direction.

Best wishes


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