basically are you there to view all your own faults and flaws? or are you there to recover from severe trauma?
Is the way to recover from severe trauma to be put under the microscope for your own misdoings? None of us are perfect and i dont’ supposed it would do any any harm to have their imperfections put under a microscope, but not when you are suffering from trauma. Its hardly a very positive way to go is it?
Understanding that a perpetrator will deliberately and unswervingly provoke an argument and fuel it and enrage himself to the point of knowing that he is terrifying you and in order to threaten and intimidate is helpful to know! shocking but helpful to know, because it doesn’t make any sense when its being done to you, but you should be thinking poor you for having to face that day in and day out, before ever thinking poor him. You need to heal and recover, get understanding for why its not your fault that you were treated like this, because he would treat anyone like this, turning everyone’s lives in circles as they do.
One thing have i remembered through this ordeal, in the event of an emergency put your own oxygen mask on first, you are no help to your children dead.