these quiet times are your brains time to do all the processing as the other wise ladies say.
It drives you nuts and depending on what you’ve been through and for how long and the depth of it all will affect how long it goes on for, but now you are free to process all this clutter and clap-trap created around you during the relationship. Your head was in a spin during the relationship, but only now are you free to listen to that continual spin of thoughts, it will start to settle, but how long it will take depends on how much time and peace you have and how quickly you can resolve it with your own answers (from places like Freedom Programme and education, validation and support).
Its VERY early days, you may well wish to now get on with your life, which you can, but you all also need to take the time to process what you all just experienced, at each and everyone of you’s pace 🙂
Very annoyingly and conflictingly! you will also be missing and grieving. Very hard. Very conflicting.
So glad you were brave enough to post your thoughts on here, writing them down and getting some replies really can help with the processing and having that place to bring those racing thoughts can help with the stopping them spinning as you get resolution and work through the layers that will keep being revealed until its over and you are healed, and oh so much wiser to them!
Warmest wishes to you .