#5874
Twisted Sister
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sorry to hear of your dilemma, its very hard to make decisions like this for your children when they are so desperate and miss their dads.

Its better she miss her dad, i think personally, than be damaged by his manipulations, inclduing the emotiional blackmail of crying to them about how awful mummy is being and how he is going to make everything right, becasue without a ddoubt that will be happening if contact of any sort is allowed.

Enjoyed this valuable time apart from his influence to keep that lovely equilibrium that you say she now has, and keep it going as long as you can, especially whilst you have the support of SS behind you against him having contact, because it sounds like you could be risking quite a lot by allowing contact against their wishes, and risking her current stability.

The other side, managing a little girl who wants her daddy to be a proper daddy and doesn’t understand. I have had to say things like parents are there to worry about their chldren, and not the other way around, that parents look after their little ones, not the other way around, and that if daddy was to be crying to her that wouldn’t be fair as he’s a grown up (or supposed to be!), and no matter how much he might cry doesn’t alter his harmful intents, and that the tears would be used for manipulation.

hope you are feeling supported by the replies and its helpful for you decision-making.

warmest wishes ks

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