Hi Falling Skys,
Glad to see you got through to the site, I also felt lost without the support. Made me realise how much i relied on the posts and replies to help through the wobbles and anxiety. Hopefully now you can post you’ll feel less alone in the struggles with the fallout post abuse. When our children display traits they’ve witnessed in our ex’s ‘standard’ responses it can be really distressing. Hope as you move away from the abuse from ex your son’s behaviour will improve. I know as my self-esteem grew, and with a more mature way of dealing with things(ex’s way was always to shout, swear and slam around), i was able to set boundaries and talk things through with my children. Life at home is a lot more peaceful generally but if we have an argument it’s sorted out with a lot more respect for feelings. It takes a lot of time and patience because all the family have suffered at an abuser’s hands. Is there someone close family or friend who can help you? You so deserve respect from your child. Unfortunately it’s usually us that gets the brunt of their off-loading, never the real villain.Might take some tough love because you don’t deserve this. Keep posting x

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