#6001
Didi
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It will take time for you to feel ok about what is happening but with him on remand you will, at least, get some peace to start healing yourself, come to terms with your situation and think about what you will do next.
I have found the whole court, bail, breaches, charges, bail, court, trial etc. a very confusing process indeed. I obviously don’t know all the ins and outs of your case but, from my experience, this is how I see it:

He is on remand now because he broke a court order for a second time while he was on bail to appear at court! Bail is usually given out first unless they pose a real risk of harm to you or a risk that they will abscond. The reason he is now on remand is because the CPS have deemed his second breach as a risk of harm to you. My ex broke bail several times until he was finally arrested and put on remand. The CPS will need to add the details of this breach to the first so it all gets dealt with in one court hearing as it all relates to same offence. If you have already been given a date for a trial it may now be put back as they will need to prepare reports.

It’s early days but the ball is rolling now and there is nothing you can do to stop it. Yes, you may have reported his breaches, but he was harassing you and making you feel scared. It is all his doing not yours.

I totally get what you are saying about when he is released, I am still having those thoughts too but this is time now for you to take steps to get strong and protect yourself. Please speak to the people working on your case and ask them to explain what is happening. Tell them you don’t understand how it works so they will explain each stage to you. You can ask for a personal alarm and other safety items to help you feel more secure. Even if it means moving to a refuge out of the area it’s all about keeping yourself safe.
The police on my case have been superb at keeping me up to date but I know it is not the same for all areas. With any luck your ex might find a spell in HMP will be enough to keep away in the future. Keep strong hun and keep posting x*x

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