Hello East 17,
Just reading through your post brought back so many memories of a similar situation i was in. I left my family home after years of abuse taking my girls with me and not much else. Started from scratch but ex never really let me go and when i was faced with a similar situation to you(daughter very ill) i thought why fight this alone and ex moved in with us. Eventually the tactics returned and he was back to his old ways and i asked him to leave. That was a number of years ago but he has been ‘attached’to us ever since and it is only in the last year that i have been able to say that’s it and really attempt to break free. I never put the stress i suffered every day down to the ex and his total disregard for normal boundaries and behaviour. Just thought after all the years of ups and downs of life, i was just one of those people who struggled with the everyday pressures -now i know different. For your health(physical and mental) i hope you can find the strength to leave your partner. I tried to play ‘happy families’ but i knew deep down i was only living half a life and having time away has made me realise that i’ve got to move on- he’s had enough of my life. Hope you can move on too! Yes it is hard but it’s like i’m finally dealing with it after years of denial X

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