Hi Tamra,
The weeks, even months, after leaving are very tough indeed. All sorts of emotions come jumping out at you like a grieving process for what was and never can be as well as lost hopes and dreams. Leaving an abusive relationship is harder still because of the trauma bonding and control/manipulation so i really feel for you at this stage. It’s horrible and confusing. Your ex will try tricks to get contact so sadly this is normal but his motivations are not ‘normal’ He is losing control and wants it back and that normally involves coercing people wbo are close to us to find out information/make contact. Best advice – where possible is no contact/no responses. It is very hard to do that and i hope you can get support to do it. Womensaid helpline can let you know of services locally. Also, your GP if you are struggling. Hope things get better for you x

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