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So glad you’ve reached out for support and you’re not trying to cope on your own. It really is too much for us to cope with (abuse and its aftermath) on our own, and dealing with our children having been affected too. I wish I could too (in the dealings with my children), be easier on myself, to let myself be ‘human’ and (not to beat myself up) for lashing out at times (reacting).

We’re not saints! Well, we probably nearly are, putting up with all those psychopaths and n*********s (our abusers)lol.

Your children are only human too and will lash out and be irritable at ‘the parent they feel safe with’. This situation will pass. The main thing is you reached out immediately to us. You’re a great mother, you’re doing an incredible job of coping with your own healing after the abuse you’ve been subjected to. None of us get it right all the time (I find that hard to accept coz I want to handle all situations perfectly all the time).

We’ve allowed everyone around us ‘rant and rave’ while we put up with it, a little rant and rave from us every now and then is ok too. I say to myself now, I’m allowed one mistake a day!!!

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