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Hi Doglover,

I just wanted to show you some support. It sounds like a really stressful situation and I totally understand why you are feeling so overwhelmed. You want what is best for your son and it is frustrating watching what you see as him wasting his future.

To me it does sound like he is really suffering the effects of abuse and perhaps has very low self esteem. It can be really daunting starting a new school and if his confidence is low it is a huge ordeal. I really think that once you are away from the abuser his self esteem would build and he might very well have a fresh interest in school due to just feeling more settled in his home life. Could it be that he wants to stay at home to ensure you are safe? Please don’t wait to get safe and happy, take the plunge today, I really feel you both would feel so much happier. Why wait until after Christmas when you are all so unhappy as it stands? You could have a happy Christmas with your son in a safe house and a very bright and positive New Year!

Please phone the helpline today. They will give you lots of advice and support.

With best wishes,

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