#6139
Twisted Sister
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Hello Falling Skys

doubting yourself over this might be wasting much needed energy? On the one hand, yes its possible i suppose that you’ve heard lots and not been able to remember it when in the midst of it all, but i find it difficult to believe tbh, especially as you say how sure you are you would remember, and i think you would because of the impact on you emotionally of hearing this stuff and you also say he’s sided with his father, and could have picked up some of his tactics, but he might believe he did tell you these things, even if he didn’t actually say the words, but kids often believe that people know when they don’t, perhaps?

I still don’t believe myself or even others above his voice inside my head still challenging my own self-belief (lack of), so i would suggest putting all your energies into just listening to yourself and dealing with the situation from that basis. Telling him you clearly don’t remember, but thats not because you don’t care and are very much want to hear what he’s been through, and giving him the chance to sit and talk it through with you so that you hear it all without comment, then he will know that you want to and think its important to give that to him, and move passed the point of whether you heard it or not first time round, just don’t let him wear you down over it, because if he’s that bothered about being heard he’ll want you to hear, rather than emotionally beat you for apparently ‘not hearing’ before?

Good luck – i think it might be an opportunity to make a positive step forward for you in taking control of these situations for yourself and feeing confident to handle it, brushing away any emo blackmail in future?

warmest wishes KS

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