lover of no contact


Just wanted to show some support as I feel for you and your situation. Its impossible dealing with an abuser and we want to protect our children so much. Its good you are getting your supports in place such as reading the posts on here and sharing your thoughts and feelings.

You have been so courageous and brave to have left your abuser twice this year. Have hope, you will manage to leave again. Meanwhile, a day at a time , work on strengthening yourself to leave again, get your supports in place, family (if they are understanding), this Forum, ring Women’s Aid. See if you can get hold of Lundy Bancroft’s book ‘Why does he do that?’

You will get there to live a life free of abuse. It just takes time. Most ladies/men go back a good few times before leaving for good. Leaving is a process. You are well on your way. This is just a set-back which was very hard to avoid when you saw your children so distressed (from his behaviour).

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