I really feel for you and I know you are trying to do the best for your children. It’s really difficult to see clearly when you are struggling with your own emotions as well as him putting the children in the middle of it.
To be honest you need to get back to your own home -I’m sure you in your heart know this -remember why you left in the first place. Things don’t tend to get better they get worse and I truly know how many times I gave my ex that one more try!
I would seriously look at childcare for your youngest -children over the age of 2yrs can get free childcare /nursery for I think it’s about 20hours a week.
Plus you get can a contribution from tax credits when you say how much child care you are paying. I think I ended up paying a third of the cost -I know that’s more than you pay now but it really will be worth it. And you can mention about after school club costs too-if that applies to you,
Do check it out the full details yourself.
Please don’t get swept into playing happy families with him, it’s never going to be like that. I know it’s hard but do remember the awfulness of the past and focus on a future without that.
You can do it as you’ve done it before. Please do post back and let us know you’re safely back home. Also can you share with a friend the situation incase he gets nasty.

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