Hi there,

Just wanted to let you know that what you’re feeling is perfectly natural and exactly the same thoughts I had when my husband was investigated. Rape is such a horrific crime that our minds don’t want to go there, and the fact that it’s inconceivable that our husbands would do that to us causes confusion. The sad thing is that he chose to rape you, he chose to behave that way. None of this was your fault and you could have been the best wife in the world and your husband would just have found something else to hurt you about. Please stop blaming yourself. If you remember in the early days of the relationship when things were ‘normal’. If he had raped you, you would have gone to the police and reported him. Abuse creeps up on us until we think it’s normal. Don’t be so hard on yourself. And don’t take the guilt for him. It’s his actions and his guilt. It does get easier with time and no contact. Take baby steps❤️ Tomorrow will be a better day x

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