Hi East17

I’m guessing from what your saying is you are still with your perb.
I left nearly a few months ago but your words sound how I lived for nearly 2 decades.
I was a confident women and he tore me down strip by strip until I was totally at his beck and call. When he had his sabotaging moments, which were very often, he would need me to put him back together. I was there for him night and day. When he had moments he would say ‘ask me how you can make this better’ ‘ask me how you can make me happy’ and other sayings. Everyone around me would say he can look after himself but no I couldn’t do that I would feel to guilty and I guess I would feel needed. Became my role but then every so often he would cheat and then still expect me to put it right.
He’s let me go again for another women and I feel totally lost even though I know in the long term I will be able to breath again and hopefully find the confident women I once was. I keep hoping for that relief and think thank goodness I went but I’m guessing that will come with time. But the truth I’m hurting like mad and would love for him to fix this for once but while he has a new ‘supply’ I’m never going to get that and have to learn to except this is life now and I will hopefully find a new love that will actually love me.

I feel for you deeply as its the hardest decision to make and break free. The heart ache will happen and the pull to save him or yourself from pain… Will also be strong but I trust one day I’ll look back and say thank god

Lots of love and a hug being sent to you

Keep posting


© 2024 Women's Aid Federation of England – Women’s Aid is a company limited by guarantee registered in England No: 3171880.

Women’s Aid is a registered charity in England No. 1054154

Terms & conditionsPrivacy & cookie policySite mapProtect yourself onlineMedia │ JobsAccessibility Guide

Log in with your credentials


Forgot your details?

Create Account

Skip to content