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Hi Peaches,

Thank you for your brave and honest post. It sounds like a really abusive, horrible situation that you are living in everyday. It must be horrible not only experiencing the abuse but watching your sister and your mother be abused to. Perhaps you could encourage them to phone the National Domestic Violence Helpline and talk about their situation? It might help them to see just how abusive it is whereas no it sounds like they are normalising it. You all deserve to be happy but if they are not wanting to change their situation then please continue with your plan to leave. Perhaps it would be a real inspiration to them and encourage them to take action too?

Could you use your money to secretly find somewhere else to live and speak to your work about not speaking to him because he is abusive? You could speak to the police about what has been happening and following of from that you could get an injunction out against your father so he can not contact you or come near you. Alternatively perhaps you could look for another job secretly and relocate to start your new life? Whatever you choose to do please be very careful and phone the helpline who can talk to you about safety planning. You can also find your local Women’s Aid group here on the website who can talk to you about all your options.

We are all here for you so please keep posting to let us know how you are getting on.

Best wishes,


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