Hi Starlight,

Just wanted to send you a hug. Dealing with abusers is impossible. They just don’t think the way we do. He was playing mind games with you. They get a huge kick out of it. It’s all part of the control they want to have over us. I cannot stress the importance of no contact. If there is no contact there are no mind games. Mine went from begging to threatening to blackmailing to hatred to pleading to violence. They will try every trick in their book to hurt or hook you right back in. Can you try total no contact. It really saved my life. Block every mean he has of contacting you and if you feel you can report him to the police, that may help keep him away. Engaging with abusers sucks the life out of us and they thrive on any contact. Stay strong. Thinking of you. I’ve been where you are but now I couldn’t care less about him. He cannot affect me and I can’t think what I ever saw in the lowlife pathetic little man. Hopefully soon you will see the light too. It’s only when we feel nothing for them can we be completely free. Keep pushing forward❤️

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