Mine wasn’t in court for a crime as such- but in 2015 I managed to get a non-mol and injunction against him, despite him feigning innocence, plusI exposed all his financial lies and his plan to gain loads of money Andrea e me penniless failed dismally!

I brought an actual witness to court with me who could prove his lies- and the coward backed down!

There were times I felt like giving up- but I kept going.

My kids are well and doing ok. They are happy, have friends and are achieving.

His plan to turn them against me failed too.

Note, however- when I was at my lowest, there were times he seemed to be winning. My kids were, at moments, fooled by him. As soon as I made fear my enemy and realised that my fear is what fed him, I think his power began to lose its grip.

Emotion and fear is our enemy in this specific situation. My wise DV leader told me this. Your abuser will use both against you, to weaken you and make you out to look the unstable one.

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