Knowing something isn’t right doesn’t make it easier to understand or do something about. You will be doing absolutely nothing wrong and the ladies above are right, even if you were ‘perfect’ he would find something else to complain about. Moving the goal posts is a tactic that is used time and time again by abusers to create uncertainty, confusion and anxiety. It is a great way of keeping us guessing and by doing so keeping us under their control and making them our sole focus. Stay strong and stay safe and try and remember that it isn’t you that is at fault, it is him xx

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