Thankyou so much to you all for your kind words and encouragement. The saddest thing for me is that you are all shocked at the abuse I described when actually that is just a tiny fraction of what I’ve suffered. He’s spat in my face more times than I can remember, called me a ugly c**t threw hot food in my face. Stolen my car keys, phone and bank card so I can’t leave. Broke my belongings, thrown gifts I bought him in the bin, poured oil over all my clothes the list is endless. He’s so controlling if my children don’t replace the toilet roll when it’s finished or leave toothpaste in the sink he will complain and call them lazy. He hates my dog, won’t let her sit on the sofa or sleep upstairs as she always did before he moved in. He puts all my friends down and my family. Yet astoundingly when he’s not abusing which is now only a couple of times a week he is like the perfect partner. Loving kind funny great with the girls nice yo everyone. How can one person put on such an act? What does he gain from this? I’ve not spoken to him since he left and I have no intention of doing so. His Aunty contacted me today to tell me she has been speaking to him and that he’s very upset by what’s happened. She knows what he is like and is very supportive to me but at the same time I feel like she’s trying to get me to talk to her with the possibility of talking to him. She was someone I confided in and I now feel like he may be trying to get her to collude and condone his behaviour. I haven’t replied to her as I’m unsure of her intentions. Feel do stuck. Not sure where to turn next xx

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