I guess what I was trying to say by talking about the books is that he has learned how to be manipulative. I know the woman who runs the group may not understand but I really felt the need to tell her so that if he is going there and playing victim maybe she won’t feed it so much.
I am leaving the house now as he will finished at group and I don’t know if the woman has spoken to him at all. Hopefully not to the point where he would have any reason to be anymore mad at me. I don’t know if I will leave completely but I’m leaving for now cos it is also my night to be with my kids. Heaven only knows I need the space now. I have developed hives since (detail removed by Moderator) last year and I’m smoking, something I used to do when I was younger. I keep saying I’m gonna quit but I get so stressed I just can’t do it. The thing that angers me the most is that he always justifies his behaviour. Even though I know and say it isn’t justified. He seems to know all the buttons to push with me and I hate it.
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