I left refuge last year.
You can register for the electoral roll anonymously. Check online.

Apart from my local council stuff and my doctors letters, all of my mail and deliveries go to my parents house.

While I was on benefits I set up a password and pseudonym and the letters came to my house addressed to the pseudonym.

I get online bank statements. And I’m very careful about where I put my address, never anywhere unnecessary.

I’m maybe extra vigilant because my ex traced me before I moved to refuge.

My bubble felt like it popped as I transioned to “reality” but I still felt very safe in and around my new area knowing he didn’t know where to find me.

Speak to your support worker at your refuge, ask for their support and the support of whichever council you move to. Explain to the various agencies that need your real address, the dangers that you face if it is revealed.

Good luck. X*x

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