I think you are doing the right thing with no contact or minimum contact. Perhaps you can put it in writing: email or a text that you do not want him to contact you and then you have proof. Stand your ground and keep away. Remember, he wants to have his cake and eat it (it sounds like this anyway) and will say you are unstable if you do not agree to his wishes as these abusers will try anything to get what they want. As hard as it is just ignore him.

Another useful thing that I did was to keep a log of the things he said to me and how it made me feel. It is good to get it out of your system in this way.

I hope you find a way to feel happier x

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