#7214
one day at a time
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Hi. He sounds a very manipulative and controlling man, so I think from even the little bit you describe here, he clearly knows what he’s doing. He hasn’t accidentally misunderstood any messages! What a horrible, nasty way to treat you and your daughter.
My ex was similarly controlling, manipulative and cruel. It took me years to find the courage to end the relationship, but like you I can now start to live my life again. It’s frightening starting over but freedom to be me again is worth it. And my daughters have seen that it is not OK to live with abuse.
You deserve your freedom too. And your daughter deserves to be treated with respect and not have to put up with his mind games.
I’m glad you have times when you feel good about him being gone. Hang onto the feelings and remind yourself during those times when you miss what you should have had in the relationship.
It does get easier with time. He sounds very needy and insecure, but your job was never to be his security blanket. You’re not responsible for his happiness – he is. Time for you to focus on you and your daughter and putting your happiness first.
Stay strong. Take care. Big hug x

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