#7257
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Hi Serenity,

Thankyou for sharing your bittersweet news with us. Sweet, in that the Decree Absolute is the physical evidence of the end of your marriage which was the vehicle for the carrying out of the abuse. And bitter for that loving, trusting young girl who entered the marriage thinking that in it she would be loved, cherished and adored.

Who knows why us lovely people fell foul of an abuser. As my father used to say ‘life is not fair’. I suppose some people end up paralysed by accidents, etc, etc. That’s just life. The main thing is that you have survived the abuse (so many do not), you have broken the chain of abuse coming down the generations so hopefully your boys have learnt from your huge ‘NO’ to abuse and using your experience, strength and hope you will help other ladies (and their children) to break free from their abusers and to continue their journey of life on a path free from being controlled and used by abusers.

Well done for having the courage and resilience to overthrow your abuser despite the constraints of marriage and society and our very own feelings.

Be very proud tonight for all you’ve achieved for you and your boys (and us ladies on here!).

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