Hi there,

I agree that – if he knows your previous partner left you for a man- this might be his cruel way of hurting you. Yes, abusers really can be that sick and will go to great lengths to hurt you, whilst feigning innocence. Abusers aren’t normal- an sbuset really is capable of weaving an elaborate tale and even acting out his method to hurt you.

My ex also had an anal sex fetish which I felt uncomfortable with. He also had hang ups about not being masculine enough. He would moan about not having hairs on his chest and not being muscley enough.

He seemed to enjoy the company of lesbians, and said nothing derogatory about them, but seemed to want to distance himself from the company of gay men.

I don’t know what all this meant, but I definitely sensed a huge hang-up.

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