Hi Timetomoveon
You sound just like me.
I didn’t acknowledge the harm this was doing to my children and now my daughter bullies me too.
It’s when I realised they were both suffering from the control too I decided I had to go but it still took me 4-5 years to manage to not give in to his guilt trips. When you are a person who hates the thought of causing hurt to anyone you keep taking that hurt on yourself to not feel the guilt of hurting someone even when they are hurting you.
I’ve done it now and you can too but build up your support network as quick as you can. Do you have family and friends? If he’s eroded that they will come back if you reach out to them. I’ve been amazed at the support I’ve had from people who I thought I had lost. Use messenger or private messenger on other social media. I got a tablet that is just mine and it’s been a lifeline as I can chat to people wherever I am and they’ve helped me get strong. Xx

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