Hi Dog a Lover,

No it isn’t the behaviour of a normal man, if you say normal is feeling a sense of fairness, affection and respect for other people and having a conscience that prevents you from doing things such as manipulating, gaslighting and lying.

Ruining another’s reputation is typical of an abuser.

He hasn’t changed his tactics. Many months ago, you thought he had hidden something and he was shouting at your son, telling him he had hidden/ taken it. Now, he is stepping up the threat, starting to bad mouth your son to neighbours.

Maybe he knows something is up? Maybe he senses you are going?

Please be very careful at this stage.

Do t feel sorry for him. He isn’t losing sleep about what damage he has done to both you and your son. He can’t beat admitting that his behaviour played a part in the relationship failing. Abusers never do. He would rather make your son a scapegoat and make him out to be worse than he is, to lay the blame at his feet.

What kind of man tries to wreck a young man’s reputation to da e his own reputation?

Don’t these men realise how transparent they are?

Hugs X

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