Dog lover- my abuser did similar.

When he sensed that I had enough of his abuse and was maybe planning to up and run, he started to try to make me the scapegoat, rather than admit to the kids and others that his abuse had wrecked the marriage.

It was transparent: he started to try to ‘pick fights’ with me when the kids were nearby, slyly saying cruel things out of their hearing, so the kids didn’t hear, then delighting in seeing me get upset.

He would then ( my son told me afterwards) go and say to my son ‘look what your mum is like.’

Thankfully, my son is very bright, and told me he knew his dad was manipulating us all!

These abusers all behave the same. Carbon copy tactics.

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