Hi confused, it’s a very emotional time. When the court rang to say my ex had been found guilty, I was ‘oh dear’ I was quite sad in a way, but then she said, well how would you have felt if it was not guilty! Well done for finishing what HE started. Yes, we are programmed to carry their guilt. But not any more. I got a nasty letter from my step daughter telling me I had destroyed our family! So some people are being manipulated, some people just don’t get it. Try and surround yourself with the supportive ones and don’t discuss with people who give negative response. My son more or less accused me of possibly sending his dad to jail but when I explained what victim blaming was, he seemed to understand. Keep that one up your sleeve. Say no to victim blaming x this aftershock will pass too. You’ve had enough of them to know but we bounce back much quicker now. How strong we are❤️
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