Hi There In Need of Peace,

You have been through so much. He sounds truly awful.

Try to remember – when you hear his voice blaming you- that it is all projection. Everything he blames you for, he is really talking about himself. He is guilty of those things, not you.

Raping you on the day you were due to give birth is the ultimate in egocentric sickness. A day that you should have felt at peace and experience a huge rite of passage, he made it all about him and his sick power.

Don’t feel sorry for him. Your priority is to distance yourself from him. He, like all abusers, will destroy others with a sick feeling of power.

Concentrate on getting yourselves safe and back on track. There are lovely people out there- leave him to stew in his own juices. X

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