Hi Selene.

I was in a long, abusive marriage.

Before I realised it was abuse, I used to think ‘why don’t abused women just leave?’

I didn’t understand anything. I knew nothing about coercive control, brainwashing, etc.

As part of my healing, I realised quite early on that I could only trust information with those who understood. To open your heart to those atelacking in understanding, empathy and experience is crucifying, and can set you back.

You have been through so much.

It is important that you deal with this. With those who can give you the support and undetstanding you need. DV counselling, local DV outreach, freedom courses, women’s aid helpline. All will help you lay your ghosts to test. Abuse takes a lot of working through.

Without the above. I wouldn’t be here now.

And you have us x

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