Hi and welcome. Yes it’s abuse. I’m sure your gut is telling you this but your mind is confused. That’s what abuse does. Would you really be looking for assistance from a forum like this if it wasn’t abuse. There’s a book called ‘Living with the Dominator’ by Pat Craven. Try reading that and phone the helpline for your nearest women’s aid, abuse creeps up on us so it becomes our normal. Abuse is all about control and your husband ticks the boxes. Try thinking if this was happening to a friend or sister. What would you be thinking. When someone shows you his true colours, believe him. One more thing. Abusers are most dangerous when they think they’re losing control or you’re going to end the relationship. Get out safely first. Please ring the helpline and keep reading other posts on here. These abusers are all the same so you will recognise many of his tactics. Take care x keep posting

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