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Hi Finkle,

Welcome to the forum, well done for being brave enough to post. What the other women have said are all great points. You wouldn’t have this overhanging feeling that something wasn’t right if this wasn’t an abusive relationship. Your partner threatening suicide to keep you where he wants you is serious, but it is important that you don’t take any responsibility for his actions, he is responsible. You say that he has never crossed the line of physical abuse but that doesn’t mean that what he is doing now isn’t terrible.

It might help you to call the National Domestic violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247, sometimes to speak directly to someone can make a big difference to how you view things. Your partner spends all his time trying to convince you that you are in the wrong so naturally over time you start to believe it. However this is not reality and speaking to a trained professional might help the vail to fall. Coming on here is great too. The women on this forum understand completely what you are going through and are very supportive.

I’m positive you will find this forum a supportive place. It’s good to have you with us.

Best wishes


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