lover of no contact

Hi dalera,

Welcome to the forum. Its good you found us. Your boyfriend definitely sounds abusive. Google ‘the Power and Control Wheel’ and google ‘The Cycle of Abuse’. You will recognise your boyfriends behaviours on there.

What you have described in your post is financial abuse, verbal abuse (telling you he hates you, his shouting at you, his calling you names), ridiculing you, emotional abuse, intimidation and threatening behaviour (to put you in fear) (his punching of the walls), physical violence (his pushing of you).

Also blaming you and making you out to be the problem is typical abuser behaviour. They make themselves out to be the victim.

You will see you have typical reactions of being abused. Fear, anxiety, walking on egg shells around him so as not ‘to set him off’.

Its not normal. Its not a normal, healthy, loving relationship. Its an abusive relationship you describe.

Keep posting and reading the other ladies posts.

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