Hi Moon
Don’t be hard on your self we have all been there
You have to remember he is an abuser and you can not trust what he says
He can not tell you that you don’t need a order in place as its out of his hands now . You can not risk loosing your child
A job is nothing compared to your safety and your beautiful daughters
so you have to protect your self if not for you for her please
You have to put you and him aside and think of only her
Can you trust him not to abuse you ? No as I have been with one and no way can they be trusted . They do not love us it’s just words they hurt and violate us
That is there actions .
Are u not scared of him that he can do worse to you than the last time
What if it is a trick to get you back and then he flips on you
I was pushed and pulled down flights of stairs I could of died
I still went back and then I got my bones broken after that
Still I went back so I know the craziness of it so that’s why I do not want you and your daughter to not be safe
Wait and go back when he has moved out and social services say it’s ok and what ever order they want
But if you know he will not leave you alone that is not going to be good for you both either
My abuser is still texting me and knocking my door even now months later and I pretend I am not in and don’t answer texts . They do not leave you alone if they no you are an easy target
It would be best if you stay at the refuge and get a new safe place to bring up your daughter near your family .
The most dangerous time is when you are leaving or left your abuser please take care and be safe
Big hugs x*x

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