I think the most important thing is your safety first. Not just physically, but emotionally. Booking doctors appointments and having the intent of going to them does not mean your perpetrator will always follow through. Nor does it mean that even if they do, you’re in a safer place. Someone who is abusive or aggressive or violent needs a lot of help, as well as a lot of time to change and become this “better” person they strive to be. I know the hardest thing to do is to walk away from somebody that you thought was different than this, and you may be in shock, but please take care of yourself and put yourself first. Good luck.

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