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Welcome Lilbbysprout,

Gosh you have been so brave. You have done remarkably well already. You have over-ridden your feelings of wanting to stay in the relationship, to getting away from your violent partner. Of course its difficult to cope with and deal with the inevitable feelings of loneliness and isolation. But you will have to feel and deal with ‘these feelings’ whether you stay in the city or go back to your hometown. You can’t run from these feelings, they will follow you wherever you go and just ask that you sit with them, process them, by sharing on here with us ladies (who have had them when we left our abusers). Know they will pass.

You are not on your own as you face your first few months on your new path of life. A path free of abuse. Post on here as you need. You are not alone. Lean on our collective strength.

The panic attacks, the gaining weight, the low self-esteem, the depression, the not being able to get up in the morning,and the finding it hard to go out are a normal response to trauma, to having been abused, to having experienced an abusive relationship. Its your body and minds way of coping, of witnessing to the fact that you have undergone something that was extremely bad for you (him). They are the signs. We on here have all experienced them in various ways and can identify. What you are experiencing is normal.

Gather as many supports as you can around you. Post on here and read the other ladies posts, ring Women’s Aid and talk through what you are feeling. Well done for having come so far and for having ‘survived’ intimate partner abuse (many do not). You will get through this.

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