Twisted Sister

Hello Finkle

i don’t know if this is your first post, but well done for posting and sharing your experience.

I feel stupid, and i’ve heard many others say that of themselves too, but its natural to miss the strength of feeling you once had for him, to be alone when you have been together, but you are not being stupid in missing him, you are knowing that feeling and realising he is a risk to you at the same time, and thats a different thing. The fact that this is worrying you shows you what you know to be a concern, that to go to him would be risky is what you are saying, but it doesn’t make it easy not to go.

A lot of what happens after leaving is this building strength that you have developed and need to fall back on to keep you safe.

one things for certain, it does get worse once their grip on you is threatened, and their only way of clawing back the control is to increase the threat as i know to my cost, which is what you have already heard.

Noone can tell you what to do, thats what comes with freedom, but it can take some getting used to making your own decisions on what your gut instincts tell you.

Its so awesome that you have left, as thats not easy! it takes a huge amount of strength and guts to do, well done for making that break, its such a huge step for your future away from abuse.

warmest wishes ks xx

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