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Hi Finkle,

Thank you for your brave and honest post. I am pleased to see that you have had a lovely, supportive reply from Karmasister. No one here will tell you what to do or judge you for your actions but it does sound like you have done brilliantly just to get away from him and sadly we do all know for a fact that abuse escalates after returning. He will want to punish you and also to knock your confidence right down so that you feel it is harder to leave him again. Try to remember that it is always sad and hard ending any relationship but actually leaving someone who doesn’t respect you is a gain, not a loss. Time is a great healer and you have to be honest with yourself and trust your gut, you sound like you are afraid of him and is that really an ingredient you want in your relationship? Perhaps some time without contact from him would help?

We are all here for you so please keep posting to let us know how you are.

Best wishes,


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