lover of no contact

Hi Finkle,

Glad you posted for support. I hate when our abusers tell lies about us, paint us in a bad light to others. All my abusers did it. Its typical abuser behaviour and like all the other forms of their abuse, it really hurts.

My abuser mum used to bad-mouth me to our relatives and close family and they would be cool to me thinking I was the ‘problem’ child and the reality was I was a near perfect daughter (my child-like way of trying to control her abuse).

My abuser ex-husband bad -mouthed and twisted ‘my reactions’ to his abuse to my children, his family, on legal documents, to his friends, he tried it on my friends (didn’t work).

My abuser boss and a few work colleagues (who are bullies) speak about me behind my back (well just not me but they speak badly about others too), imply ‘I need to be watched’. So I know how you feel. It really is hard.

My only comfort to offer you, is ride these feelings of being ‘wronged’. They will pass. I don’t care a bit what my ex’s family , his friends think of me. The judge in our case saw through him. And I try to not ‘react’ to my boss and bully colleagues. They have to live with themselves. I can hold my head up high, and so can you! We have done nothing wrong. The truth always comes out eventually.

This too will pass.

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