lover of no contact

Hi Falling Skys,

I felt the same. I would feel overwhelmed and fearful with submitting the forms for court. How I coped was to approach it like ‘the dreaded essays ‘I had to do when I was at school. The thought of them was actually worse than the actual completing them. Also I would say to myself, first things first, they need to be done (so no procrastination), just do them (allocate 1 hour and just start filling). I learnt they didn’t have to be perfect (accurate yes), that’s what my solicitor was there for. I had to do my part, that was all. There were others involved in my process of separation which I couldn’t control, my solicitor, my abuser, my abuser’s solicitor, the judge etc. It wasn’t all down to me, I was only a part, but I was responsible for my part (the filling in of what was needed for the separation process ) to proceed. So I would do my part (say a little prayer beforehand). Let go of it then and proceed with my day.

Its a new experience for you. If you had to go through several separations we’d be experts at it. lol Its daunting because its new and we’ve never had to do it before. Good luck!

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