White Rose

The dreaded form!
It honestly seems worse than it is. I felt sick and had a panic attack when I saw it but its really not too bad to do.
The guidance notes are helpful.
I agree do a bit at a time.
On line print offs of bank statements are ok and so is an online quote of car value.
Include absolutely everything to be sure and be careful to be honest with daily costs section – especially with food bills and any child care costs. My solicitor added 10% to mine as she said it was crazy what I’d put and actually she was right. My abuser claimed for a cleaner and gardener since I did the lot. Cheek!! I’m surprised he didn’t add a prostitute too to satisfy his other needs!!
If you have anything joint you both need to include it e.g. mortgage.
House valuations are free – just tell agent you’re possibly looking to sell and there’ll be no problem.
Pensions were my biggest problem – took ages so I ended up ringing to nag and nag them and finally got something through after I cried down the phone (not good but I was desperate!).
Just get the information rewuired, don’t try to do any calculations – leave that to solicitor.
I found it easier to do a sheet for each section and handed it with the backup evidence to solicitor to add to the form. I then checked it. My abuser did it all DIY and completely messed up meaning he had to do it three more times to get it right. Women are more logical!!!
Good luck. You’ll feel so much relief when it’s done. But its still a long haul after the form.
You don’t need an essay in the “plans for future” but you will need to say what you want e.g. home, same standard of living, same class of holidays etc. I added that I had been emotionally and financially abused on there too at solicitors advice.
Another little step on the road. You can do it. You probably don’t need your mum’s help except for tea and cake and to check off evidence at the end xxxx

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