Hello LBP, I get my plain straight talking from my parents and grandmother. The tactlessness is all the parents fault. Maybe I will get better with age although old people are really frank and dont give two hoots.

Oh heebie jeebies and spine shivers when you said sexual control, is he just slowly turning into every type of dominator character in the Freedom Programme?

I don’t know what to suggest apart from taking up knitting…..are there no community groups at all in the village? No village activities? Pub quiz? Social media group? I’ve always lived in a city often within walking distance to the town centre. Now I’m hiding in a bigger city than before so there is loads of activities. I play football with some local women from church. I go to support group and I can go to three other women’s groups if I want. People in my support group suffer with mental illness and the job centre is always threatening them with voluntary work.

When I started looking for work with the job centre, they paid for my travel to the specialist agencies and then when I got the job, they gave me a travelcard. In the cities I have lived in they had travelcards, for bus, train or tram. I don’t really know how people get about in rural areas and I don’t know what the job centre does for you out there.

Pulling pints for free in the village pub? Decorating the village church? Stacking shelves in the village post office/shop? Assisting in the village nursery or primary school or chippie?

Don’t give up keep trying.

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