lover of no contact

Hi NewWings,

Its not you. You’re just on the receiving end of people at work and people in your family who choose to have the upper hand over others (bullying behaviour), put others down, be superior so they can feel better themselves.

I can relate. I escaped an abusive marriage and an abusive mum. Thought that would be it. Then find myself in my new job on the receiving end of bullying behaviours by my boss and other colleagues. Keep posting. I was well and truly victimized and feeling so low everyday (as there was so many of them), but I have become stronger and its not as bad this year (because I’ve changed and do minimum contact with them). One of the bully colleagues left which reduced the power base among them. The others I just try and reduce my contact with them. I never initiate conversation, will respond politely but without it being obvious I try not to engage. I now choose not to waste my time with people who treat me badly and save my contact for the non-bullies.

There are bullies (abusers) in my family too. I had to cut contact with my mum and brother. That has made a tremendous difference to my peace of mind. Mind and emotions no longer in a mess. It is sad but healthy for me.

It really isn’t you. Its them.

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