Hi Whiterose. I wonder whether the ‘helping out’ is a way of him still trying to control you and a way in to continue the abuse. I say this because my husband offer to ‘help’ and then throws it all back in my face when he’s mad. It’s as if he uses these offers of help to store up ammunition for later. Like you, I am thinking that no contact is the way to go. It is very hard, especially when we share children, but I find that I am continually drawn in to his mind games.

You sound strong and determined and you can do it on your own xx

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