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Hi Starmoon,

Please don’t blame yourself, you never did anything wrong. Your ex partner specialised in twisting everything and manipulating you to do what he wanted. He is a pro at it and he knows exactly what to do and what to say to get to you. Please don’t look back and have regrets, just look forward. Maybe you needed to go back one more time to know that this is a toxic person and not a good situation for you, or a person worth you spending your life with. Rather than looking back and thinking ‘how could I have let this happen?’, try and think what a sad and pathetic person he is that he treats people in this way and look at how much you have learnt from your experience. You might not be able to fully see it yet as it is all very fresh but in time you will come out much stronger than you went in.

Keep pushing forward Starmoon. You have already come so far. You are heading in the right direction.

Best wishes


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