This topic contains 28 replies, has 6 voices, and was last updated by  Lottieblue 4 weeks ago.

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  • #108649
     littledove 
    Participant

    Hey!

    I saw this idea online and thought it be great to try on here with everyone!

    So at the end of each day everyone can come on here and write 1 positive thing that happened in their day and 1 negative thing that happened in their day.

    So for example, at the end of my day I would write:
    Positive – My daughter and I got to spend the whole day together, we laughed and giggled all day
    Negative – My ex tried to upset me today with a nasty text but I just ignored it and feel so much better for it!

    Always thinking of the positives that happened in the day is a great way to be thankful of the day you’ve had. And the one negative thing makes everyone realise they aren’t alone and that we all have our ups and downs, and can offer our support for someone’s negative thing that happened, and if you can’t think of any negatives for that day, then great! 😁💓

    I shall be posting later on with mine for the day 😌 please do feel free to join in ❤️

  • #108650
     Soulsearcher18 
    Participant

    Great idea, I’ll try it out later on x

  • #108652
     littledove 
    Participant

    Or if some people would just prefer to write a positive that be great too 😌 but if someone feels the need to let off steam…feel free!💗

    It makes us realise there are always positives among the negatives ❤️

  • #108734
     littledove 
    Participant

    Here’s mine:

    Negative – I haven’t had the chance to get my housework done so it’s looking a tip just now, I need to get it done because it’s really depressing me when it’s looking like this!

    Positive – I took my little girl to a relatives this afternoon and she got to play with the other little one’s. Was so lovely to see her around them, she was so happy and it felt so nice to get some peace too. Was great to just speak to other adults and made me realise how big an army we have behind us through anything ❤️

  • #108755
     Lottieblue 
    Participant

    Positive: I found a way to express my fears to someone. Someone who I don’t know but who is a good listener.

    Negative: I just can’t seem to find a way to get on top of those fears, to deal with the issues and start afresh.

    X

    • #108756
       littledove 
      Participant

      That’s great you have someone you can confide in and help you with your worries 💗

      I find the book ‘How to Stop Worrying and Start Living’ by Dale Carnegie helped really well with my anxieties.

      Also try mediation for 10 minutes every morning, it will make you feel so much calmer and able to keep track of your thoughts better. Also journaling helps get it all down too.
      💖

  • #108866
     littledove 
    Participant

    Positive – Been so happy today, had my daughter a walk through the woods, felt so good to be surrounded by nature and watching her laughing and having so much fun has filled me with so much joy.
    Just been a wake up call today, have realised I am so truly blessed, my daughter just puts a smile on my face every day, my little rock💖

  • #108875
     Soulsearcher18 
    Participant

    That’s lovely littledove, nature and children are a great mix and the best therapy. Really good to hear this xx

  • #108876
     Soulsearcher18 
    Participant

    Negative: Have definitely overeaten junk food 🙁 and feel uncomfortable with it. Need to do something about that and change some longstanding bad habits.

    Positive: I have nailed a DIY job today and worked well with my relative to get it done. All going to be lovely and organised. Rocking the DIY this week- go me!

    xx

    • #108880
       littledove 
      Participant

      I say eat whatever you want as long as you mix in some good food as well 😜 food just tastes too good!

      Well done! I wish I had your motivation, my home is a bomb-site right now, need to get the house cleaned!!

      And yes today was just wonderful, first time I’ve been in a great mood in so long! Hopefully things are changing for the better now! 🌈💗

  • #108883
     Eggshells 
    Participant

    Negative: struggling to deal with my feelings

    Positive: There’s a beautiful cat, curled up, sleeping peacefully on my lap.

  • #108890
     Soulsearcher18 
    Participant

    Aww, pet therapy- also the best x

  • #108891
     Soulsearcher18 
    Participant

    You’re doing great littledove x

    • #108893
       littledove 
      Participant

      Means a lot Soulsearcher, just small steps at a time 😊x

  • #109015
     littledove 
    Participant

    A little late tonight but:

    Positive – had Sunday dinner with family and was lovely

    Negative – My little girl drew all over my living room wall with dark crayon! Managed to get most of it out with baking soda!

  • #109016
     Eggshells 
    Participant

    Negative: Really missing my sons.

    Positive: spoke to one of them on Skype tonight. Very clandestine, had to be done whilst his Dad was out otherwise he would have been spied on but lovely to see him.

  • #109017
     Eggshells 
    Participant

    Oh dear Littledove, I know I shouldn’t but that did make me chuckle. I remember drawing on my bedroom wall when I was little. Sooooo tempting! Perhaps pop over to the sisterhood sanctuary. She can draw on walls to her hearts content, it will magically be gone by morning – no baking soda required. 😉

    • #109019
       littledove 
      Participant

      That’s a good idea, should let her run riot in the shed with the paints haha ☺️

  • #109023
     Lottieblue 
    Participant

    For yesterday:

    Negative: My husband did the most amazing gaslighting attempt on me – and is maintaining his stance this morning

    Positive: I’m one step ahead. I know what he’s doing.

    • #109032
       littledove 
      Participant

      That’s great that you know what he’s doing and aren’t letting him mess with your head, keep strong and big hugs to you x

  • #109118
     Eggshells 
    Participant

    2 negatives today. My ex managed to use my son to get to me. My son recognised it but not until it was too late.

    Argument with my sister. She has no idea how completely broken and fragile I am right now.

    2 positives. My son has been as supportive as he can be.

    I had a lovely chat with my nephew when I drove him to and from school. Really getting to know him better.

  • #109209
     Lottieblue 
    Participant

    Positive: I’m still here

    Negative: I’m still here

    • #109213
       littledove 
      Participant

      I hope one day you only see that as a positive. You matter and you are enough ❤️

  • #109210
     littledove 
    Participant

    Negative – Today I was the only one who never got invited out by a group of people I’m friends with, maybe because I’m a single mum they never thought to, but it made me feel unwanted, wasn’t a nice feeling. Maybe it was because in the past I always wasn’t able to because my ex said I couldn’t, maybe they just didn’t see the point in asking me, still hurt a lot 😔

    Positive- My real group of closest friends planned something later on today for the weekend and invited me 💞

  • #109225
     lover of no contact 
    Participant

    Loving this thread; thanks littledove.

    Negative: Reacted to my adult daughter and we had a bit of a shouting match. Wish I hadn’t reacted so much.

    Positive: I stood my ground with this daughter in that I had asked her for help in preparing her and her siblings dinner. Even though she gave me flak about it she helped. I’m glad I didn’t back down in order not to have a confrontation.

  • #109247
     Eggshells 
    Participant

    Negative: just felt really low and scared all day. I’m really struggling to pick myself up.

    Positive: Some people who I felt had previously let me down gave me a boost up to help me start my new life.

  • #109254
     Soulsearcher18 
    Participant

    This is great littledove, if I’m not managing to get mine on here- I’m still reflecting at the end of the day.
    Those magic sponges are ace for crayon and many other things on the walls.
    Loved lottiblue’s post- it is awful being gaslighted but she was a step ahead as she could see it- knowledge is power!

    Mine for …yesterday?!

    Negative: Trying to accept it and roll with it but hate that our situation means that we are ‘special’ and under the spotlight so to speak. Wish we could just be free to move on and entirely free from him 🙁

    Positive: Successfully sorted a fab bit of budget furniture for one of mine and have created a lovely space for them. With a struggle managed to get it in situ. Fits perfectly, looks good. They’re going to love putting stuff in it and organising it.

  • #109771
     Hazydayz 
    Participant

    Today the sun is shining and I am feeling it! Some days I don’t.

  • #109783
     Lottieblue 
    Participant

    Negative: I have sunk to an all-time low. I could have left. I allowed my abuser to tell me how unhappy he is with me being distant. I didn’t leave him

    Positive: I know I can. There were reasons for yesterday not being the right time. The fact I am regretting it shows me it would have been the right thing to do. He needs to know it’s him, though, not me.

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