2 sides to him

Jeckyl and Hyde. Very typical behaviour from an abuser. Read Living with the Dominator by Pat Craven. This behaviour is controlled and deliberate. He waits till there are no witnesses because he knows it’s wrong. He won’t change and abuse always gets worse. Try contacting your local women’s aid x

My husband is exactly like this. He has even accused me of flirting with the Tesco delivery man and my banking advisor and work colleagues on the phone.
He can be so charming in front of other people, my mum thinks he is lovely although my best friend has seen the other side.

One thing that I have recently realised is I think that the reason he has been generous at Xmas the last (detail removed by Moderator) years is we’ve spent them with family. So gifts have been seen by family members. There have been many birthdays where he hasn’t even got me a card and has said he couldn’t be bothered to get anything because it’s too much effort. For some reason I find the missing birthdays very hurtful.

My partner is exactly the same but sometimes does it sly in public as well. He seems to think that certain songs or what some people are saying are very relatable and calls me vulnerable if I ever speak to anyone about anything.

I have a Jekyll and Hyde relationship also. Two sides people only see the happy confident everyone’s friend and I get the moods, sulks, belittling etc. It really gets me down espec the nit picking x

Your not alone. My parnter is the same. I know what you mean. When we gwt home hes changes to. Has a go at all the things ive said. Then go on to say i shouldnt have said something. How theyd be all laughing at me for saying it. Sometimes he doesnt wait to get home and gives me what i call the death look. It says how dare you say it. he does accuse me alot when i talk to people. Like (detail removed by moderator). Say you both getting chatting, he chatting you up, think your in there, you got yourself a new boyfriend, think he fancies you.

I hate birthdays or any special occasion. Finds a way to ruin it for us all.

Stay strong your not alone X

Yes mine has two sides to him as well. At worst he can act totally normal/cheerful to others then secretly give me ‘the look’ which puts you in total fear mode for what’s to come. Horrible, just horrible.
He is also disgusted with abusive men he hears about or men who may put women down in public. The irony x