A bit overwhelmed

[newyork]

Hi I’m new and left a few months ago with a young child. He used coercive control, controlling everything I was doing, from food to who I spoke to and whether I went out. I’m struggling now to sort out arrangements for the child and our finances with him. My abuser still presents this massive front of denial, about any of the things he has done. He wants to come and live nearby and have shared care between us. That is my worst nightmare. I don’t really know where to start – I’ve looked at various websites, but it helps to hear other people’s stories. I don’t know how to even have conversations with someone who is so manipulative. We are in mediation, but it’s like the conversations don’t go anywhere – he talks and talks and talks, and just lies. I end up so frustrated and angry – which doesn’t help anything either.

[Lottieblue]

Hi Newyork. Just bumping your post up. I can’t answer your questions as I don’t have experience in this but there are others who do, for sure, so keep bumping until someone comes along!
Good luck! X

[Lotus20]

Hi Newyork,

Thank you for your post, I am in the same position and you and it makes me sick thinking of having any contact with him and I know would not do any good to anyone but how to minimise the damage I am also not sure.

I really hope some of the more experienced women here would share from their view.

Thanks again

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